Friday, December 16, 2011
Now that I am married, do i still feel the same about Polygany?
A dear reader of mine has asked me if i still felt that same about polygany now that I am married. For those of you who dont know how i felt about polygany before, well i will try to put it simply. I was always supportive of those who live polyganous lifestyles and was pretty much in agreement to everything with regards to polygany. So are my views STILL the same?
yeah, pretty much.. Nothing has changed except..
I do feel jealous or angry at the thought of it happening to me - BUT. that is ME. that is my own feeling that i will need to overcome if one day I was in the position.. well I would like to try.
I was also asked if I felt that there had to be a reason for a man to take a second, wife.. Well look, I think there should be a reason.. we are human, we shouldnt do things without reasoning otherwise we could do alot of damage to ourselves and those around us. So yes in that sense I belive that if you are going to take a second wife, its better have some kind of reasoning - to maintain a stable and healthy relationship with the wives, and well its just more dignified.. but if a man wishes to do so, without any apparrent reasons, then you know, thats kinda unfortunate but you know what, dont let that cloud your judgement of polygany.. we have to acknowledge that it is halal..Allah swt has made a perfect system for human beings, this i trust.
Its a really big and complex issue..cant cover it all in one post. - but me personally, I don't mind polygany.
BUT before anyone takes my post in the wrong way, Id just like to say that, Islam promotes Monogamy more than anything. It encourages people to have ONE partner in marriage for the rest of your life if you can and to never EVER cheat on your partner no matter what. you cant get any more monogoumous than that.
We should all try to accept each other's way of life and support marriage whether its a monogoumous or polyganous.. They all serve the same purpose of pleasing God.
whatever happens, try to take it easy, because everything is Qadr (written by Allah swt).